Don’t Care What Other People Are Saying About You
September 16, 2008 by Shanker Bakshi
Filed under Blogging, Ramblings
Don’t care what other people are saying about you. The moment you start listening to the critics, is the moment you start to fail.
This was the statement made by Mr. Loren Feldman in recent Izea Fest held at Orlando. Loren runs a video blog 1938media.com where he plays with his puppets for creating news. In his words – “We are satirists. We also do parodies. We are controversial sometimes. We seem to be pretty popular.
Now this statement has so much in it, I strongly believe that criticism always hit very hard to one’s self confidences. There are chances that it may strike you so hard you find yourself completely wrecked down from inside. The beauty is this statement has been made by a person who is in business of pulling legs and cracking gags on others.
Anyway, how you take criticism, well there is one very established axiom that you must keep some true critics with you who will help you to point out your mistakes and craft you to perform better. If you ask me – I don’t believe this. Simply because I think you should believe in yourself, in fact you never need any body to tell you about your mistakes, I suppose you always know that which are the things you are doing wrong and which one are right. What say?
You try and listen to your critics, you mould yourself as they says, you find yourself a totally different person, you work hard to mould some of your basic characteristic, you continue listening to them and changing yourself accordingly and then one fine day you find it difficult to live with this fake replica of yours.
I remember when king khan was struggling to make his mark in Bollywood, in his initially movies he kind of stutter while delivering dialogue. People raise questions on his ability to deliver dialogue; I guess he never care about these criticisms about his stuttering dialects because if he really did then his career as a Bollywood actor would have been over. He still dialect his dialogue the same ways and see the same bunch of critics love the way he speaks now. His stuttering dialogue delivery has become his signature.
While surfing this morning I come across to this very interesting post, a blogger request her readers to make comments on a post simply because she wants to prove that she has many readers who read her blog and appreciate her literary genius. But why she was doing that; because one of her friend challenge – if her blog really has any reader. Unfortunately only few comments were made which mean she failed to prove her position before her “critic” friend. This was the last post on her blog until today; I guess she give up blogging. Congratulation to that “Destructive Minds”.
Just listen to your own voice; you are the best judge of your acts. You know your abilities. You are the BOSS.
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It is one thing to say “don’t care what others say about you”. I believe that and live by it to an extent. However, I think you need to be able to take in what people say about you and use it as constructive criticism. I read this “don’t care” statement as being synonymous with “ignore what other say about you” which I don’t think is the best way to go about it.
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I do believe that there are something that you should take in to consideration on what people say. At the end of the day it all boils down to how confident you are about yourself and how well you can take criticism from others.
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(You are the BOSS )
hmmm
True.
And BOSS is always right.
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Dear Mr Shankar we never forgot that we are social animal , We have to listen what others say about us , if it is some thing to be corrected then we have to .. I always belive and ask my freinds do critise me so that i come to know what is my weakness and strength untill unless pointed out my weakness i can make over my problems … so listen what others say about us and accept the good things from them and take challenge from other words .. But ofcourse we should not give up …
have a nice days
BG
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Like Biju, I disagree that you do not believe in critics. Critics often let us know how we can improve on the blog. It is always to have many eyes and brains on a blog rather than just one because you can find a lot of other areas to improve on.
I certainly don’t believe people can improve with criticism because no one is ever perfect and it is the same to blogs. Do try to take in advices and criticism and you will notice that you can move on further.
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